Thoughts from the Pond

~ Relationships ~
The key to finding the right relationship is like most other things in life: keep trying and searching until you find the right one for you.

In a relationship, it is not important that both partners think the same... what is important is that they both think together...

When seeking a relationship, know what you want. Know what will and what won't work for you...don't settle for what won't work...anyone can get into a relationship anytime they want if they lower their standards enough...

When you value yourself the most, you are best suited to add value to a relationship.

Not having a relationship is better than having a bad relationship.

If bad past relationships have you doubting possible future relationships, maybe you need to change your approach on meeting potential partners. Perhaps you are attracting the wrong kind of person. Modify your approach and keep trying until you find what works for you.

Maintaining a great relationship requires many of the same things as keeping a great job:
admitting errors and mistakes and learning from them... ongoing commitment to find new ways to encourage the relationship... determination to get through the bad times and to enjoy the good times... recognizing the tremendous value of the "small things" done day-to-day... continuing respect for the other person, their similarities and their differences... anticipating what will help and add to the relationship and doing it before being asked...

Choose one "small thing" to do for your lover, a card, dinner... do it without being asked and enjoy doing it. See the results!

It's ok to disagree with your you disagree makes all the difference. Disagree with respect for the other person's opinion whether or not you think it's right.

When your partner makes a mistake, that is the time reassurance is needed most.

The bad times can strengthen a relationship if both persons are willing to make a commitment to do whatever it takes to work on the problems and learn from the bad times.

Sometimes in a relationship one partner will see someone else and think "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence." But you can't see everything that's on the other side of the fence. You can't see someone else's faults without knowing them well. So you only see the great things that attract you and then make an incorrect assumption that there are no negatives about this other person. Unfortunately, everyone has their faults, and the other side of the fence could be swampland. Try and see the whole picture. You deserve that...

Love hurts, love heals, love abounds...the secret is to enjoy it and learn from it...

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